Adult chat with husband and wife
If your deepest desire is to have a strong, healthy, covenant, marriage that is #beating50percent, then you have to be willing to align your strongest desires with your deepest desires. But I was dating to marry, and if Audrey was going to be my wife, then I needed to learn an important lesson So I put myself in Audrey’s shoes, and thought to myself, “What if Audrey had a guy friend who was becoming her best friend, and it wasn’t me…” I hated the thought. Within marriage that would be so wrong it’s insane. I’ve heard people say that being able to have opposite-sex friends is a sign of a healthy relationship. In my opinion, this viewpoint is naive and selfish.
I was in love with Audrey and she knew that, this girl was just my who I cared about deeply. Marriages have “ups” and “downs.” During an “up” season, where everything is bright and dandy, it might be easier to allow a seemingly harmless opposite-sex relationship to exist, even if it frustrates your spouse a little bit.
For Audrey and I, our boundary is that we don’t hang out alone with anyone of the opposite sex. If so, then don’t make room for relationships that will cause your spouse to doubt, feel jealous, compare themselves, or even feel like they are missing out.
if one of us has respectfully asked the other not to. Don’t send that completely innocent text about “work stuff” after hours.
There was nothing wrong with her, she didn’t do anything wrong, in fact, she helped me a ton and had a huge impact on my life in college…. Think about it this way, say you have a scale of 0 – 100 percent. You cannot give more than 100 percent effort, it’s not possible!
Sometimes our deepest desires are overridden by our strongest desires. Some people may say that they have always had opposite-sex friends, and marriage shouldn’t have to change that.
The more you give to someone else, the less you have for your wife or potential spouse.
And once you are married, your wife is the most important relationship you have besides your relationship with the Lord.
They need to be filtered through the standard we are choosing to uphold. ” Instead, you should be asking, “Where is the line, and how far can I get from it?
To protect your standards, you must create some boundaries. ” Do you want to protect your marriage and make it the most exciting, challenging, rewarding thing in your life?They are in a fluid state of giving and taking energy and effort.Every time you give to someone else the percentage on that scale changes in their favor.Worst case scenario, you look to that female friend to fulfill your wife’s shortcomings.