Intj men and dating
Affectionate words go a long way for many, especially Feelers, who need verbal encouragement to feel good about the relationship.
And you didn't even ask your date about their life goals.
INTJs famously require a mate of the mind - someone clever, preferably genius, and independent enough to stand up to the INTJ's formidable intellect.
Most INTJs will figure out very quickly whether someone makes the grade. To make a fair assessment, an INTJ typically will bombard their date with the "big" questions.
Until then, we are flexible and open to new information.
This is a problem, because we have a tendency to spend a ridiculous amount of time studying the ins and outs of relationships - knotty issues like our feelings, whether the flames of passion are burning, and the significance of it all.
INTJ's score high on the Judging scale, which means they like to have things decided.